Maybe It’s You

hello darlings,

Someday, I’d like to break my addiction to self-help books, but that day is not today. I’ll give up my astrology and palmistry books before that ever happens! Yeah, I’m that person. And c’mon, don’t act like you haven’t ever Googled your horoscope prediction or sat in a bookstore covertly reading about the astrological compatibility of you and your mate. We’ve all done it.

I love self-help books because I was raised by Oprah and she is the Queen of Self-help. As a motherless daughter and latchkey kid, I’d come home after school every day and watch the Oprah Winfrey Show. She was a beacon of light into my otherwise grey existence and I’d hang on to every word she’d say like she was talking directly to me. So many of my values as an adult (empathy, tolerance, bravery, self-empowerment) can be traced directly back to watching her show. And until recently, I used to hold on to this childish notion that she and I had this cosmic connection. Then I watched this (you can stop at 1:30):

Yep, one of millions. Womp. Womp.

The self help book I’m reading now is called Maybe It’s You, by Lauren Zander. I bought it back in 2019 when I was suffering from a bout of insomnia and had a 1:00 am shopping frenzy**. That night Questlove posted the book on Instagram and like a sheep, I put it in my cart and bought it. Then I forgot I purchased it and ended up buying the book again! And now I’m finally getting around to it.

Since I just cracked it open, I can’t say if this book will change my life. But I really love Questlove’s endorsement: “I’m certain one of my books will be about how LZ got me to a new amazing place in my life. People ask “what kinda diet am I on?” I answer truthfully: “MENTAL HEALTH leads to all types of freedom and infinite possibilities!”

I hope to drink this Koolaid very soon.

**I know I’m not alone in midnight shopping sprees. One time I bought something at Cost Plus at midnight and then changed my mind in the morning. When I called to cancel the order and apologize for my rash purchase, the call center employee told me that every night there’s an uptick of sales after 10:00 pm and every morning calls come in with corresponding cancellations. Yep, one of millions yet again.


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  • I just want to clasp hands as a fellow self-help book lover. WE SHALL BE PROUD TOGETHER. I think it’s cool to be open to self-improvement AND to be curious about what works for other people. I too am one of the millions who feel a connection to Oprah, and I think Martha Beck is brilliant, and I love Elizabeth Gilbert’s BIG MAGIC and also her Instagram.

    • WE ARE NOT ALONE. Let’s let our Oprah flags fly high!

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